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Sunday, February 17, 2013
Saturday, February 9, 2013
Writing: My Life, My Passion
WRITING: MY LIFE, MY PASSION
Dear Alice,
Hello. I do not know if you
remember me, but we’ve met. I was about
ten, living in the northeastern industrious Mexican city of Monterrey. My father, lawyer by profession, historian by
calling, director of a prestigious private university library by occupation and
an incurable avid reader by passion, brought you home on a muggy Tuesday
afternoon and introduced us.
I must confess you were a little intimidating at first, coming from
England and all. Then you tiptoed into
my life, Alice. Quietly.
Unperceivably. I still remember
holding my breath as I followed you. And
then my life changed.
It was a weird thing that I followed you, Alice. You see, it was just something that I would
never actually do – wander away. I was a
model first-born: quiet, standoffish, straight-A student, always doing as told
and expected.
My childhood, perhaps a little like yours from what I could assume, was
happy, serene and privileged. I had
devoted parents, attended a private bilingual school and enjoyed lazy Sunday
afternoons at my grandmother’s. Now you
see why following you was undoubtedly my most daring feat. It turns out that
the event that I have always considered to be the least like me actually
devailed my true self. And this is the
main reason why I decided to write this long overdue letter: to thank you for waking in me an urgency, an
anxiety, a painful passion even, not only to follow you, but to wander
off myself, to live my own adventures, to go beyond my familiar and comfortable
surroundings and discover new worlds. In
other words, to write.
I did not understand this overwhelming and burning sensation anymore
than the Jabberwocky poem at the time.
From my naïve and limited sense of reality at age ten, I honestly
thought all I had to do was precisely that: write. It seemed pretty simple.
I tried, Alice, I really did. This scorching passion kept growing and my
leisure hours were spent meeting new people and new places: from Little Women
to Tom Sawyer, Black Beauty, White Fang, The Little Prince, Treasure Island,
Sherlock Holmes, A Christmas Story, Moby Dick, The Old Man and the Sea, Anne
Frank, Helen Keller, the Swiss Family Robinson, Rikki-Tikki-Tavi, Rip Van
Winkle… words fascinated me… and I wrote.
I wrote as much as my pre-teen life experience and my incipient command
of the English language allowed me to.
And then I turned fourteen.
You are younger, Alice, so I do not know if this will make any sense to
you, buy I’ll try to explain. For me,
turning fourteen was like returning from the world of the Queen of Hearts and
the Mad Hatter, or from the looking-glass universe, and realizing that those
cosmos actually made more sense than the one I really lived in. I did not understand anything or anybody –
and the feeling was reciprocal. Dances,
music, parties and the usual pranks, jokes and trouble everybody else seemed to
enjoy so much were totally unappealing to me.
I wanted to write – but I had developed this acerb and poignant critic
personality that realized how plain and feebleminded all my stories were. They were horrible!
What do you do when you really want and need to do something – and then
find out that you’re truly bad at it?
Reading – my other passion – was safer.
High school introduced me to Don Quixote, Shakespeare, Dante, the great
Greek and Roman authors and cultures, literary theory and history… I tried to suffocate my
desire to write by devouring the reading assignments, learning all the lyrics
to the Osmond’s songs and excelling academically.
After a few years of denying and ignoring, a heavy numbness took over
me. In college I studied English
literature, linguistics, translation and pedagogy. From Kafka to Hawthorne, Chekhov to Miller,
Hardy to Homer, Fitzgerald to Joyce, Poe to Nabokov in English; and from Julio
Cortázar to Pablo Neruda, García Lorca to Octavio Paz, García Márquez to Borges
in Spanish – I was mystified and bedazzled.
And more and more scared of adventuring into a world inhabited by giants
like Austen and Ibsen and Ellison and Vargas Llosa and Unamuno and Rulfo…
Do you believe in miracles, Alice?
I do. As a matter of fact, I
think you are one in my life. God knows
I would have been the perfect hermit (and maybe in some ways I am), but He had
other plans for me, so destiny thrusted me and Plutarco Adame into each other’s
lives. We fell in love and married twenty-eight years ago. He is smart, funny, resourceful, noble,
loving and wise. He has always
encouraged me to write, and I pretty much managed to duck his prod, push and
spur. Our four kids came to bless our
lives and I tricked, to a somewhat successful extent, my need for writing by
being very busy.
Then I let life distract me.
Life has been… well, life. I’m
grateful for everything I’ve lived through, and I’m aware it has all made me
who I am and brought me to where I am today.
I’ve been dealt my share of good and bad hands. I’ve had my quota of successes, failures, ghosts,
angels and demons. We’ve lived in
different places, cities and countries.
And I always carry a book and a notebook. I tried to lose myself in the vortex of the
hectic daily routine. Any excuse was a
welcome truce in fighting my need to write, from cooking and looking after the
family to preparing my teaching lesson plans to watching TV. The sight of the blank paper was excruciating
In 2000, my husband’s faith made my book The Child with ADHD: A Guide for Parents
(Trillas Editing House, 2000, in Spanish) a reality. It is a homage to our second daughter and a
guide for other baffled parents. After
that, I again retracted to my safe, no-risk busy world.
You see, Alice, when people grow up,
sometimes they are in such a hurry that they forget their dreams…. But, fortunately, sometimes the dreams forget
to leave and they just linger on, in any corner, just waiting….
And then, unexpectedly and out of a clear blue sky, I caught a glimpse
of you. And I followed you into your
worlds again…. and revisited the Mad tea Party and the smiling vanishing cat
and the gardens and the walrus and the carpenter…. and a dormant fervor was
rekindled…and Zyanya Always and Forever, my first novel, was born and saw the light in the first days of this 2013.
Thank you, Alice. Thank you for not giving up on me, for
helping me realize that the terror of writing is much less than the agonizing
pain of not writing… once again, thank you… and I’ll be seeing you again… just
perhaps next time in my wonderland, in my looking-glass universes, in my worlds….
Sincerely
yours,
Greta
Sunday, February 3, 2013
Evil Eye
Have you ever felt suddenly dizzy, with a strong headache, maybe even
feverish and nauseous for no apparent reason?
What would you think if I told you that someone probably looked at you
with envy, or gave you a compliment without acknowledging God, and cast on you
the evil eye? Would you disregard the
comment, thinking it’s just an old superstition and it has nothing to do with
you and our super modern laser, nanotechnology and space exploration world of
2013?
Do you enjoy rock concerts? Do you like heavy metal? Then you are probably familiar with the
signature hand-sign, the sign of the horns, that late vocalist Ronnie James Dio
used during his days with Black Sabbath.
Dio made the gesture popular among heavy metal fans, even though he was
definitely not the first one to use it.
What you might not know is that he learned it from his grandmother, a
southern Italian, who used this gesture to defend and protect herself and her
loved ones from the “malocchio” or
evil eye.
Today, celebrities like Madonna, Oprah
Winfrey, Jennifer Aniston, Britney Spears, Brad Pitt and Richard
Gere have been seen wearing jewelry and amulets known to guard against the evil
eye.
The evil eye is a negative force that is
exerted when someone stares at you or your possessions with envy, in an
unfriendly and unkind manner, or praises and compliments without mentioning
God’s intervention. In the human victim,
it may cause dizziness, pain, headaches, vomit and fever; if it’s an animal, it
may die or fall ill; if it’s an inanimate object, like a shop, a farm or a
ranch, it may cause it harm, its destruction or loss. Newborns, babies and young children are the
most susceptible to fall under the power of the evil eye, and it can be deadly
for them.
The
evil eye is known as matiasma or vaskania in Greek, avin ha’ra in Hebrew, ainal
hasound in Arabic, malocchio in Italian, olho gordo in Portuguese, bla bland in farsi, mal de ojo in Spanish, mauvais
oeil in French, bosen blick in
German, overlooking in Great Britain. The belief in evil eye goes
back to ancient Sumerian, Babylonian, Assyrian and near-Eastern texts, which
would make it over five thousand years old.
It is older than Greek and Roman civilizations, has been mentioned by Plato, Plutarch, Theotcritus, Hesiod, in the Bible’s both Old and New Testaments, by Shakespeare, Bacon, Jane Austen, Herman Melville, and Edgar Allan Poe. Anthropologists, psychologists, sociologists,
classicists, folklorists, missionaries, church authorities, ophthalmologists,
theologians have studied the evil eye throughout human history. Today, the evil
eye “continues to be a powerful factor affecting the behavior of millions of
people throughout the Indo-European and Semitic world.” (Dundes, 1992)
The evil eye must have something
inherent that allowed it to emerge and flourish in almost every culture in the
Middle East, West Africa, North, Central and South America, Central and South Asia and Europe for
more than fifty centuries. It has survived natural disasters, world wars,
discoveries, inventions, revolutions, watershed events and human
milestones. Though sometimes linked to
sorcery and witchcraft, the evil eye is regarded as part of our human nature. It does not necessarily imply a wish to harm
or hurt, and no training or studying is required to cast it. The perpetrator is
not always aware of his wrong doing, and it may be involuntary. In some cultures, it may be people with green
or blue eyes, people who drink, women who are childless or covetous, jealous
and envious.
The cure from evil eye is as varied as
the amulets used for protection and the cultures it is part of. In different places and religions, people use
prayers, holy water, eggs, olive oil, lemons, rituals, spitting, wax or coal
dipped into water and smoke.
Today, Hindu people protect their
houses, businesses, and vehicles from evil eye with a lemon hung with chilies
in a bead, their newlyweds by applying kumkum powder, a powder made from
saffron and turmeric, on their cheeks, and kohl, a dark cosmetic powder, on
children’s cheeks, or by tying a black cord around the children’s hips. In Bangladesh you can see a black dot on one
side of children’s foreheads, or behind girls’ earlobes. In Mexico, mothers will ask you to touch
their children if you praise or compliment them, and they will crack an egg in
a glass of water, praying, and place it under the bed of anyone suspected of having
the evil eye. Aprotropaic, or protective, amulets range from a hand-shaped amulet with
a blue eye, known as the hamsa hand: the Hand of Myriam by Jews and the Hand of
Fatima by Muslims, to nazars, or evil eye stones, disks or concentric dark
blue, light blue, white, and dark blue circles in Turkey, deer’s eye seeds in
Mexico, red cords or strings in India, a horseshoe charm in Egypt, a charm in
the form of a horn in Italy, a charm made from cat's eye shells in America and England,
to blue stone beads. In Greece people will spit three times when praising or
complimenting. Dutch people will paint a wide black stripe on farmhouses, the
Irish have charm phrases and Chinese will spit over their left shoulder in
order to deter or protect themselves from evil eye. People will use rainwater gathered on April
27, place salt or coal in children’s pockets, bless wine, blow smoke into
children’s mouths, request a priest to pray a certain prayer. You will see jewelry, necklaces, charms,
symbols, strings and beads on doorways, wrists, necks, ankles, hips, vehicles
and on newborns and children.
Whether you believe in the power of the
evil eye today or not, it is definitely a belief shared by millions that has
remained an important part of the everyday life of people all over the world
for thousands of years.
Thursday, January 31, 2013
Destiny
Jairo has to decide whether to embrace a destiny he was not aware of or return to his life as he knew it. Tabatha is thrust into a world she does not know or understand (or care to) much to her dismay. Yaxkin had prepared for this his whole life. He was ready for the pain, the sacrifices, the fight -- but he was not ready for her. http://sbpra.com/GretaBenavidesAdame/
Tuesday, January 29, 2013
Endless Possibilities
There is something magical and both angelical and demoniacal about a blank page. It is the endless possibilities. I am terrified of writing. It scares me. But the terror of writing is nothing compared to the agony of not doing it.
Writing
“There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.”
― Ernest Hemingway
I am terrified of writing. It scares me. But the terror is nothing compared to the agony of not doing it.
Destiny - Fate
Jairo, Tabatha and Yaxkin have seen the light of day. They have emerged from the cloudy chaos of my imagination into life. Is destiny set, or are we capable of molding our fate? Can we run, hide, escape from what has been written for us? Is Zyanya just a coffee plantation -- or is it a metaphor of the universe?
Saturday, January 19, 2013
writing 2013
Tomorrow may be hell, but today was a good writing day, and on the good writing days, nothing else matters. (Neil Gaiman)
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Gasping for air
Tabatha, Yaxkin and Jairo gasp for air. They fight for their own right to exist wherever it is that characters in a novel exist. I'm just a facilitator.
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Tabatha
Crouching inside the muggy rift in the rock, I painfully plunged my back
against the jagged rock wall. My chest heaved in and out, desperately
trying to provide me with the oxygen my adrenaline-pumped body demanded.
Outside, I could hear the scabrous blood-curdling growling and the cracking
and snapping of leaves and twigs as the irate creature circled the narrow entrance.
Suddenly, I jumped back as a hirsute behemoth claw reached in and took a strike
at me. A huff of fetid, reeky sweltering breath bashed my face.
against the jagged rock wall. My chest heaved in and out, desperately
trying to provide me with the oxygen my adrenaline-pumped body demanded.
Outside, I could hear the scabrous blood-curdling growling and the cracking
and snapping of leaves and twigs as the irate creature circled the narrow entrance.
Suddenly, I jumped back as a hirsute behemoth claw reached in and took a strike
at me. A huff of fetid, reeky sweltering breath bashed my face.
The beast missed, but my cotton blouse was drenched in frigid sweat, my throat
was parched, my whole body was convulsing with terror, and there was one thought
in my mind: He did not make it! He did not make it!
was parched, my whole body was convulsing with terror, and there was one thought
in my mind: He did not make it! He did not make it!
Writing...
A writer is somebody for whom writing is more difficult than it is for other people. (Thomas Mann)
Still struggling over the editing of my first novel... the characters and the story seem to slip through my hands like sand...
Still struggling over the editing of my first novel... the characters and the story seem to slip through my hands like sand...
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